• Kendall Ficklin

MAN IN THE MIRROR



“The minute we stop lying to ourselves is the minute we receive a better and different version of ourselves.”


As soon as I saw him, I confronted him.


“Yo, you need to stop lying to me,” I told him.


That might seem harsh, but he had made an important promise to me. My physical, spiritual and emotional health were tied to him keeping his end of the bargain.


And he let me down.


He broke the promise.


So when I walked past the half-length mirror in my bathroom, my reflection and I had a heart-to-heart conversation.


“You said you were going to work out,” I told myself. “And when it was time to get up and work out, you tried to make every excuse not to do it.”


I had promised myself I would start exercising. In reality, the only running I was doing was away from my treadmill.


In the mirror, I had to remind myself of this reality.


The minute we stop lying to ourselves is the minute we receive a better and different version of ourselves.


I made changes to my exercise habits by implementing the C.A.R. framework.


C – Character. It starts with the honest conversations we have with ourselves.


A – Accountability. Our conversation isn’t just with the man in the mirror. We tell others who can help us stick with our goals.


R – Responsibility. This is us actually doing the things we said we were going to do, even when nobody is watching.


I’m putting my own C.A.R. framework to the test by preparing to run my first half-marathon.


I’m not a natural runner.


I don’t wake up every morning excited to lace up a pair of Asics.


But I’ve promised myself.


And I’ve told others who can hold me accountable.


And I’m doing the work.


So I’ll see y’all at the finish line.


I want to hear back from you. In what area of personal or professional life do you need to be honest with yourself?


Kendall (Coach K)